Thursday, July 31, 2008

The Sheer Idea of Dating is Exhausting

I promised myself I'd give this whole meeting men thing the ol' college try, but I've even found the minimal effort in the last 2 weeks exhausting. I've so far only done Craigslist...and here are the stats:


Post 1


4    responses


1     that were potentially interesting


0     responses back after photo sent


0     dates


Post 2


9    responses


5    that were potentially interesting


2    responses after photo sent


0    dates


One of the 2 responses from Post 2 is a guy in "his forties." Honestly, I'm not up for that considering how I hate getting older myself. Plus, I asked him for his age because I "didn't want to be dating my dad." (Yes that's what I said.) Don't give me a decade. 40, maybe. 48, we have serious issues.


So, I soldier on. I may have a date with the guy obsessed with the 80s, which I'm trying to remain upbeat about. I revised my Match.com profile yesterday...and as per usual, I have guys who are ignoring my actual profile which states what I'm looking for. Has it always been this hard to meet people? I mean, really.


 

5 comments:

  1. I'm going to sound like your mother... but the way to meet men is to go out and encounter them in person. And I don't mean bars.
    I mean non-inebriated activities, preferably ones with a purpose. Volunteer for your local political candidate; take a community college course on your favorite war; join a group that hikes around looking at historic buildings.
    These will not all lead to encounters with hotties, but they simultaneously broaden your social network and widen your experiences. And there are worse things than meeting your future husband through, say, his mother.
    If you're too bushed to move, go find guy-oriented blogs and network there.

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  2. Not to sound more whiney, but...See--that's the thing. I do stuff...all the typical stuff that is supposed to help you meet new people, men and women alike. I do church, I do volunteer activities, I take classes...and none of that has ever led to me meeting anything but women and gay men (which is fine--but not getting me anywhere). And, I've often found that even when I meet women and gay men in these activities, I end up not seeing them again. Maybe I do need to move to a different area, like my friend Elaina suggested!

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  3. Naah, you're allowed to whine... you need different classes. I'm serious about taking up the study of war. War and sports reliably attract hetero men.
    Evening MBA programs also tend to be heavy on men, but they're usually married.
    The real question to ponder is "Where are the men?"

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  4. Naah, you're allowed to whine... you need different classes. I'm serious about taking up the study of war. War and sports reliably attract hetero men.
    Evening MBA programs also tend to be heavy on men, but they're usually married.
    The real question to ponder is "Where are the men?"

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  5. That's the problem, I think--all my interests end up not being man interests. Guess now is the time to take up mud wrestling and become a NASCAR fan!

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