So, I have recently come to the realization that at the current pace I'm operating at, there is little chance I'll meet a good man. Not NO chance, but given that to my knowledge, my friends (many of whom are also single for no good reason) don't know any eligible men and that as I've gotten to the ripe ol' age of 32, the pace at which I meet anyone new, man or woman, has slowed down considerably, it's less than likely.
For the most part, I've just not cared all that much, except in the complainy way most of us like to complain about it. I've been sort of the opposite of desperate. I've occasionally done Match.com, or similar, but couldn't sustain the level of work necessary to sift out the winners because of my lack of caring. I've always told myself the serious lie everyone tells you which is "He'll come along. You'll meet that person when you least expect it." Um, no he won't. How? On Metro? I actually play a game on Metro that's called "Gay or married." I'll tell you, there are very few eligible straight men on Metro. In line at Starbucks? Sitting in my office working on spreadsheets? I guess there's always dating shows.
Anyway, I've realized I'm going to have to get a little bolder, put in a little more work, and engage in some serious dating combat. Sounds exhausting, huh? So, I am doing something I never tried before: a Craigslist ad. It's worked for me in the past in meeting very cool people for non-dating purposes, so I figure: why not datable men? No cost, other than time. My plan was inspired by my friend Elaina who met her current boyfriend this way. She planned to meet a new guy every week or every day or something like that. It worked, so I figured what the heck.
Since posting my ad a few hours ago, I've gotten 3 responses. One was looking for some casual sex with a jacuzzi tub soak afterwards (Uh, tempting, but no). Another was a guy who sent 1 line, something about liking the ad, with a picture of him shirtless (bad one, guys--don't do this. I think he was trying to detract from his face), and a 43-year-old, which is out of my age range (28-38--I typically like to stay with guys born in the 70s). Fun group, eh? Anyway, the good thing about this is that I can easily delete these ones!
I'll be sure to keep everyone posted...